Spanking Doesn't Work (for the most part)
The first real tantrum came, followed by spanking, crying (not my own), and a sense of relief. Spanking had worked! Ah, the peace and quiet was glorious… then the next meltdown occurred. The spanking seemed slightly less effective. Unfortunately this trend continued, and very soon I began to think my child liked getting pummeled (not literally of course, I don't want the authorities knocking on my door). This couldn't continue, not only was spanking not curbing bad behavior, but it was making my arm tired (see above note).
Then the naughty chair came into play. It was very difficult breaking her will and getting her to stay in the naughty chair. Multiple nights required multiple hours to produce the desired effect, which was a child who would stay put, and acknowledge what she had done wrong. Much to my chagrin, the naughty chair had much the same result. Before I knew it, she was jumping off the chair and running amok.
So what to do? Nothing seemed to work. Luckily the combo platter seemed to do the trick. When the naughty chair and spanking were both in play, the results were much better. For minor offenses like not getting pajamas on in a timely manner, and not picking up toys, the naughty chair was just fine. Then, much like a second level help desk, if the rules of the naughty chair weren't being effective, justice would be swift, in the form of a spanking.
This approach works for my daughter, but I know all children are different. What works for your kids?
Yeah, it's interesting how different kids are. My 3 kids are all very different, and they all react extremely different to physical vs. mental torture---er I mean discipline. :-) You just end up learning what works and what doesn't work.
It's interesting to see what Nanny 911 has to offer...I mean, it seems to work, but I wonder how much of it is manufactured (edited) reality. I think the lesson I took from her is that there is nothing wrong with being cool and collected and thinking through the process instead of being in the heat of the moment.
Thanks for the contributions, Scott!
Yeah that's effective beat your child..make them fear you...damage your relationship with them cause mental and emotional health problems and show them that hitting others is respectful in society.
A simple I don't agree with you would have worked, but I see I've touched a nerve. If you would have read the post a little more closely, it says that I found that spanking isn't all the effective for my daughter.
when my brother was a toddler, spanking was pretty effective punishment, no ill effects came from it, same for my nephew, but my mother says that spanking was never really effective one me
I was spanked quite a bit, as a kid, and it turned out to be a sexual turn-on for me. Therefore, I did not spank my kids, since I would have felt like a child molester if I did. I was not sexually molested in any way, as a kid, just spanking was always very exciting to me and got all kinds of good feelings going that I did not understand at the time. I have met many others who, like myself, associate spanking with sex, and some of them were never spanked as children--a few told me they grew up wishing their parents would have spanked them as their friends' parents spanked their kids, but they turned out to enjoy spanking as adults, anyway. There are biological and anotomical reasons why spanking is sexually arousing for many people, and I wonder why it is not this way for everyone. As far as spanking vs "naughty chair" goes, I recommend liberal use of "time out" with just the threat of a "smack" being enough to gain children's compliance.
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